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9 signs hes leading you on
You are head over heels, but is he? - photo by Emily Cummings
Whether youve had your suspicions for a while or its a new theory, you need to know if your man is leading you on. Not only is it unfair to you, but it is a complete waste of your time. If he is not willing to commit to a relationship and stop playing games, then he is not worth dating. Pay attention to these nine signs to see if your mister is leading you on:

1. He doesnt really know you

Conversations are very superficial. You dont get many heart-to-heart conversations, because hes not invested in really getting to know you. He might forget details youve told him a thousand times and asks you the same questions again and again because he isnt really listening to what you say.

2. You call him more

In any relationship that is just starting, usually one person is more interested than the other. And thats okay, for a while. If youve been seeing each other for a while and you still are the person who is always calling, texting or setting up dates, thats not a good sign. He likes chatting with you and occasionally spending time with you, but hes not interested enough to initiate it himself.

3. Theres no planning for the future

If you notice hes not one to suggest future plans, pay attention. If you really care about someone, little things like well have to do that next fall or lets plan on seeing that movie together just slip out of your mouth without a second thought.

4. You dont see his family

Serious relationships tend to involve more people. You want everyone you know to meet your boyfriend or girlfriend, that includes friends, roommates, coworkers, family members and the guy at the smoothie place who knows you so well. Pay attention to who you know in his social circle. Are you meeting casual acquaintances? Have you met any of his family members? If you havent gotten to know the people around him, he doesnt see you being a part of his life in the long run.

5. He cancels a lot

Even the busiest people can make room for someone they love. If week after week he cant seem to find an hour in his schedule to meet for lunch, he is not into you. Hes just leading you on.

6. He wont get to know your friends or family

You are really into this relationship and want everyone to know about it. While some men can be shy when meeting the parents or other family members, refusing point-blank to ever go out to lunch with you and your sister is a red flag. In a loving relationship, you want to know the people your love cares about. If thats missing, so is his affection.

7. He is hot and cold

Some days he seems distracted and distant, but all of a sudden can be very sweet and flirtatious. Everyone has days that are stressful, but if he is constantly unpredictable, thats not a good sign. His behavior is a red flag to you that he is just stringing you along. When he can sense that you are suspicious, hell put a little more effort to keep you around.

8. You only group date

Forget personal and romantic one-on-one dates with someone who is leading you on. Because hes not truly invested in the relationship, hell have you hang out in a group setting and count that as a date.

9. Things arent progressing

Have you been in the same relationship for months now? Things should naturally progress and get more serious as time goes on, unless hes keeping things stagnate.

Its difficult to realize that someone you love is just leading you on, but being blind to the signs doesnt do you any favors. Talk to close friends and family about your situation and trust your gut.
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