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Do we need more dad midwives?
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The latest trend in parenting is dads being midwives. But there is some debate about it. - photo by Herb Scribner
Martin Boyce has achieved super dad status.

This week, Boyce helped his fiancee, Holly Dawson, give birth to their baby daughter Isabelle during a home birth.

Boyce didnt expect to deliver his new baby daughter. His wife went into labor hours earlier than expected, forcing Boyce to act as a midwife. He listened to his mothers instructions that she received over the phone from midwives at the Leicester General Hospital and successfully delivered the baby.

It was a bit scary as it was some time before 'Belle moved and cried, but it was fine. As well as a bit scary, it was also absolutely amazing, Boyce told The Leicester Mercury.

They filmed the event, and the video has since gone viral.

Heres a look at the home birth. It may make you uncomfortable. The highlight here is Boyces attention to Dawson, and how sweet he treats his wife and daughter.

After Isabelle was born, the couple brought her to the hospital, where the midwives checked on her, the Mercury reported.

Though midwives later attended to her, Isabelle's birth was still a case of a dad taking the reins as midwife, a position normally held by a woman, who act as a care provider for mothers and infants.

In the United States alone, there were 11,018 registered nurse-midwives and 88 certified midwives in 2015. These registered midwives helped more than 320,000 women give birth, attending to 92 percent of all midwife births. Research has found that home births with midwives usually are a safe form of childbirth.

But for men, being a midwife is not always common. In the United Kingdom, where there are 42,000 registered midwives, only 122 are men.

One of those men is Mark Harris, who has been a midwife for 22 years. He told The Telegraph hes sometimes met with confused glances and crooked eyebrows about his role as a midwife, as some havent come to accept it as an occupation for men. His own children tell people that their dad is unemployed rather than explain that he helps women give birth, he said.

At the same time, hes had three babies named after him proof that many women find Harris a welcome presence in the birthing room, The Telegraph reported. In total, hes delivered 500 babies.

But he may be the exception. Men can sometimes feel helpless in the birthing room, resorting to inappropriate jokes to make themselves feel more confident about the ongoing events. It wasnt until the 1970s that men, including fathers, were even allowed in the birthing room, after all.

It doesnt just feel powerless, it feels emasculating, Harris said. At the moment when the one they love is having stuff done to her, they feel completely unable to handle it. Not only that, they have professionals around her saying, can you move away, can you sit down, well be back for you after theyve rushed her off to theatre.

But these men can find confidence with being in the hospital room by becoming midwives or learning more about childbirth.

Helping out during childbirth can also help these men become betters fathers, according to Midwifery Today, a magazine written for midwives.

Fathers who are in attendance for the childs birth create an early connection with their soon-to-be born baby, kicking off the framework for a strong father and child relationship. These fathers, upon seeing their new child, tend to feel strong empathy and compassion for their baby, which will then establish a better relationship, the magazine said.

These fathers also feel like theyll be more comfortable holding their child, and will have a better ability to distinguish their new baby from the crowd, the magazine said.

Acting as a midwife, or staying in the hospital room during birth, can also help husbands improve their relationship with their wives because it shows their partner that they are around during stressful times.

Still, Harris suggests that fathers only be there if they really want to be, not because research or experts says so.

If he doesnt want to be there, he shouldnt really be there, Harris told The Telegraph. The foundation for an energetic, passionate fatherhood is a courageous choice at that point. Making that kind of choice could be the making of a great dad.
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New Medicare cards are in the mail and scammers are on the prowl
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The Centers for Medicare and Medicaid Services has begun mailing new Medicare Health Insurance ID cards. The program no longer uses Social Security numbers to identify people. - photo by Lois M Collins
The federal government is beginning to send out new ID cards to the 58 million Americans who benefit from Medicare. But since many of the people who will receive them don't know they're coming or why, scammers are already gearing up to take advantage.

An AARP survey shows as many as three-fourths of Americans 65 and older have no idea the cards are coming, so some individuals may be duped with claims that they're supposed to pay a fee or provide personal information that will be used, instead, to defraud them.

The new cards are the first reissue in years, and the most striking part of the redesign is that the cards no longer carry the beneficiary's Social Security number. Congress mandated the removal of that number as an identifier for Medicare beneficiaries by next April. Instead, the card has a Medicare Beneficiary Identifier number, an 11-digit combination of numbers and letters.

The new Medicare cards are now being mailed out in batches, starting with the Eastern seaboard and moving west. Most Medicare beneficiaries will receive their cards over the next six months, as long as the Centers for Medicare and Medicaid Services (CMS) has their correct mailing address. Once the cards are in hand, people can share the new identification number with their health care providers. During a transition period, either card is valid.

The old cards, which used Social Security numbers as the personal identification number, should be destroyed.

AARP recently launched an education campaign to warn consumers about scams related to the new Medicare cards.

The membership organization's "Fraud Watch" consultant, Frank Abagnale reformed con man, scammer and the subject of the movie and book "Catch Me If You Can" tells senior citizens the only time they need to carry the actual Medicare card is to health care appointments. Otherwise, it should be left in a safe place. If they want to carry one in their wallet or purse, he says, make a copy and black out the first seven numbers.

Since the cards were announced, scammers have already:

  • Called seniors and asked for their bank account information so that money on their old card could be returned. There is no money on the old card and CMS never asks for personal information over the phone.
  • Offered to send the new card after Medicare beneficiaries pay a $25 fee to cover expenses related to the card. The card is free.
  • Said the card will be mailed out as soon as the older person verifies his or her Social Security number, mailing address and other personal information. CMS already knows the beneficiary's Social Security number and it's no longer being used in conjunction with health care.
AARP and the Federal Trade Commission will hold a free online seminar about the cards and the fraud attempts they have spawned on Thursday, April 19, at 7 p.m. EDT. Register at: www.aarp.org/FraudWebinar. CMS also offers a "frequently asked questions" guide to the new cards.

The AARP Fraud Watch Network says consumers can sign up for its Watchdog Alert emails that deliver breaking scam information, or call a free helpline at 877-908-3360 to speak with volunteers trained in fraud counseling. Abagnale also hosts a weekly podcast for AARP, called The Perfect Scam.
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